The liberation of change (statue in the Dutch Houten)

Oct 2

The liberation of change

Change is vivid; change is exciting; change can be overwhelming. When life transforms, it is easy to get lost in thoughts. As time passes, they become patterns and, slowly but steadily, part of who the “I” thinks to be. Thus, not only does life change but our personality and perception also create a new reality.

That is extraordinarily challenging. Nobody can secure that the paths we choose in life are appealing and appropriate. Sometimes, this pulls the rug out from under our feet. It leaves us with a feeling of helplessness, isolation, and struggle. Falling into a black hole and losing countenance. Sooner or later, we get carried away.

The temptation to find an escape for that suggests itself. We are clinging to what we believe is the only thing left: The past – a reminder of how we had seen substantiality. So we glorify it since we at least know what we have in contrast to the now and the future. But truth becomes distorted over time, making us believe in a reality that never really existed. One that does not base on our well-being. Otherwise, we would not have decided in favor of a change. A reality that is somewhat based on others than on us.

But when making decisions, we take responsibility for nobody but ourselves. It is better to sacrifice than to be sacrificed. Accordingly, we should take matters into our hands. This a phrase that everybody loves to chatter about, but it is easier said than done. We believe in not depending on whatever else forms our reality but us – but often, we do not act like that. This means we get across a screwed way of life and exemplify an ideal we will always fail to live. Eventually, we permit this to dictate how we can experience joy.

We will never break through this disillusioning vicious circle if we don’t find the courage to become our master. We cannot blame anyone else for the world we are in or for whom we are allowed to enter but us. And as hard this central recognition might be, the more liberating the moment of freeing will become.